The Importance of Being In A Healthy Relationship.

I think, companionship is something that most people (not all) would like some time in their life. it’s important that when entering into a relationship you are ready, healed, or emerged fully into your healing journey where you know you can to bring another energy into your space and have a clear idea of what you do & don't want.

Here is a great think piece from our favorite therapist Taylor Chandler discussing the importance of a healthy relationship!

Check it out below!

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Relationships serve as mirrors for ourselves. They teach us what our weak points are, what our strengths are, what we love about humanity, and what we despise. We can learn a lot about ourselves through examining the relationships we find ourselves in.

It is so important for us to understand that the energy from a significant relationship will seep into other parts of our lives. For example, if it’s an unhealthy friendship, it will seep into your romantic relationship. If it’s an unhealthy relationship with your work, it will seep into your friendships. The good news is the same rule holds true for healthy relationships! So, if it’s a really positive, romantic relationship, your friendships will be positively affected. This goes on and on for all of the different types of relationships you may have and how other relationships are affected.

These two principles will be helpful to consider when looking at the important relationships in our lives:

We pick up behaviors and thoughts of people we are often around.As a survival strategy, we imitate those around us so we are seen as one of them. We have a better chance of being able to stick around rather than stick out. If you find yourself feeling down or anxious around someone - even if you recognize it and don’t like the feeling - you are still more likely to adopt that way of thinking and feeling.Does this person act in a way you admire? Does he or she think in a way that inspires you?
Whoever is around you is the kind of person you might amount to.Look for the fruits of their labor. Whatever it is you’re looking for or whatever kind of person you hope to be, if they aren’t living that life, it is just another distraction from your goals. Is this person striving towards goals you hope to accomplish as well? Is this person producing results in their life that motivates you to be a better person yourself?

Our connections to others tell us a lot about ourselves and who we are going to be. Positivity breeds more positivity, negativity breeds more negativity, and whatever you find yourself surrounded by will multiply unless you intervene!

Know that it is not your job to try to ‘get’ someone to be better or different than they want for themselves. If you keep trying at this, you will end up exhausted and both of you will be resentful of each other. Your job is to be the best you that you can be, and to get to a place where you are able to receive the other person who simply does not need your hand to tune them up. Not that they are perfect, but that you are able to accept and love them for who they are ALREADY and they can do the same for you. You are not lowering your standards. You are keeping whatever standards you have, only entertaining those who meet those standards, and no longer attracting people who are not able to meet the criteria you have set for your relationship.

Your future is tied to your relationships! Pay close attention to who you are close to. Surround yourself with those who inspire and support you, and who you can pour into in return. Reaching your goals depends on it!

xoxo

Taylor